On AskGayBros, a 188k-member Reddit page, bottoms ask questions like 'What's the shaving situation in Manhattan?' and 'As a bottom twink, should I embrace my butt hair?' On Grindr, the go-to hookup app, tops (ie, the folks who do the penetrating) talk about their preferences for smooth behinds, and complain about the unpleasant chafing caused by coarse hair during sex. It's a real point of concern among gay men. It's not that I've had bad luck in picking partners who care way too much about butt hair. It's unfair, when you think about it: Being penetrated in itself forces you to be vulnerable-yet guys also have the gall to ask us to look 'perfect' during the act? But it's what I've come to expect: Which is why, in that dismal shower stall, I pushed through the pain of twisting my body and went forth with my trusty razor.
Countless hookups have requested a butt that's polished, lacking even the tiniest hint of stubble. Its view was so sad: the focus on my face my clenched jaw the backs of my ankles flexed as I contorted by body to shave the hair buried in my butt crack.īeing gay and a bottom (ie, someone who receives penetration) I'm often concerned about my butt hair situation. The steel shower head in my college dorm's communal bathroom watched me every time.
